You Are Not Listening

You Are Not Listening
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Rating: 4.6/5

Author: Kate Murphy

Publisher: Celadon Books

Publishing Date: 07 January 2020

Language: English

Genre: Self Help/ Communications

ISBN-10: 1787300951

ISBN-13: 978-1787300958

Format: Hardcover

Pages: 288

Cost: Rs. 553 (Hardcover), Rs. 525.35 (Kindle edition)


In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there. It’s time to stop talking and start listening.


This life-changing book will transform your conversations forever! The author puts it out there:

We’re not listening.

And no one is listening to us.

Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend's toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others.

The author explains how important listening is, to individual people, society as a whole. The role of listening in different career choices, where those who can listen reap the benefits. Even listening to ourselves, which depending on what we are saying can be a benefit. Of course, negative self-talking is never a plus. This book to be informative and well worth reading, as well as pertinent in today's fast paced world.

What Kate Murphy has done is dissecting the process of looking at how the listening part of communication is often overlooked as we place our views and opinions: never giving a chance to even hear out other’s perspectives. The author gives us numerous examples of how this is (in fact) severing the lines of true communication; each chapter examines a facet of this problem and gives examples from diverse fields of study to highlight the different 'traps' we all fall into when we stop actively listening to others.

Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it's a skill that can be learnt and perfected.

About the Author:

Kate Murphy is a Houston, Texas-based journalist whose work has appeared in The New York Times, The Economist, Agence France-Presse, and Texas Monthly. Kate Murphy’s eclectic and much-shared pieces have explored an extraordinary range of topics including health, technology, science, design, art, business, finance, fashion, dining, travel, and real estate. Kate is known for her fresh and accessible way of explaining complex subjects, particularly the science behind social interactions, helping readers understand why people behave the way they do.