Top 5 things in a Relationship that are way more important than love

Top 5 things in a Relationship that are way more important than love
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There are a lot of things that need to play together when a relationship comes to question, and these are the things that often matter the most.

Love can be the harbinger of a relationship but to sustain it takes a lot more than just love. We do get into relationships thinking that love will be more than enough to keep it going but most of the time; the relationship breaks half way due to sheer reluctance. Love is after all not a singular emotion that in itself defines the panoply of feelings it stands for but love is actually a chemical formula where every ingredient needs to be put together in properly measured amounts.

So in order to make sure your relationship does not have a mid-way breakdown, here are the top five things you can do that are a lot more important than love:

  1. Trust - Admit it. You have had your past, heartbreaks, moments where you acted like a complete jerk, and times when you were left with absolutely nothing. Now think about it, your partner too has had a past with heartbreaks and his/her own share of bad times. So before you judge him/her for anything, consider that the person you fell in love with is necessarily a good person who had some really bad time. Trust your own judgement and trust your partner’s goodwill. That way it becomes easier to deal with situations which are entirely not suitable for your relationship.
  2. Communicate - There is no greater truth than the fact that communication is the key to any good relationship. We have a problem of not speaking up when it is needed, instead we tend to go quiet and let things pile up until one day there is no more space for it. In order to avoid sudden outrage that can often have irrevocable consequences in a relationship, it is important to communicate with your partner about things that you don’t like. Maybe that will lead to a fight but at least you have both put things out on a plate and will probably soon find a way to deal with it.
  3. Understand - Now that you have put everything out on one plate don’t just throw it away like it doesn’t matter. Try to understand what your partner is telling you, why he/she is angry about something so meagre, what could have triggered the problem in the first place. Understanding is not about you stooping low, it is about you trying to make a bigger space in your mind to take in the ideas of both you and your partner. When you try to understand you actually get to look at things from your partner’s perspective too, and that can be a major gain in any relationship.
  4. Respect the Self - As much as it is important to understand your partner, it is equally important to respect your own self. Love does not mean submission, it means acceptance and you can accept someone without turning yourself in entirely. The moment you begin to prioritize your partner’s feelings above yourself, the relationship becomes a one-way streak where you don’t matter anymore. Such situations do not last long and you will reach a point where either of you have a complete meltdown.
  5. You Want It - That is perhaps the single most significant part of a relationship, you should want to be in a relationship. You might love a person a lot but not be prepared to take that person in, you might live a person but in no way do you guys match, you might also be in love and simply not want to be in a relationship with the person...at least not at the very moment. So the timing here plays a key role and the fact that you really want to be in a relationship.